You Are Not Alone
I am so very sorry that you are here. To hear the news that your baby is stillborn is absolutely devastating and I truly am sorry. I validate you and the life of your precious baby.
During this time of crisis, knowing what your options are, what to do about giving birth and how to move forward, can feel utterly overwhelming and inconceivable amidst the shock and trauma. I am here to support you and to slow things down so that you are seen, heard and held, as you process your options and make decisions for your birth and how to honor your baby’s life.
As a stillbirth doula, there are so many ways in which I can provide you with informational, physical, emotional and advocate support during this life altering time. My bereavement support is without cost. I can provide doula support both in person and virtually.
How I can Support You
- Recognising trauma responses and how these may impact your ability to process information and make informed decisions.
- Slowing things down, listening to what you need and holding space for all of your feelings and emotions.
- Incorporating your belief system about death and other cultural and religious rituals into your expectations of birth and care for your baby.
- Ensuring where possible, you have the time you need to explore all of your options and are able to make informed decisions about your birth and care for your baby in collaboration with your healthcare team.
- Supporting you to understand your rights and the process of consent and informed decision making.
- Supporting the needs of your partner and other significant people in your life as they naviagate their own feelings, whilst also being there for you.
- Helping you to pack a birth bag and to create a nurturing birth environment, wherever you are giving birth.
- Reviewing and adjusting your birth plan, and supporting you in person, physically and emotionally during the birth of your baby. I can also provide birth support virtually.
- Ensuring your postpartum and lactation needs are met.
- Supporting you to welcome, bond with and spend time with your baby.
- Helping you to honour your baby by making keepsakes and memories.
- Supporing you to bathe and dress your baby.
- Sourcing and contacting a professional photographer if desired.
- Supporting you to explore post loss lactation options, including milk cessation, milk donation and milk keepsakes.
- Supporting you to say goodbye to your baby.
- Supporting you to communicate the death of your baby to your loved ones.
- Linking you with resources and services in your community and online, who can support you with funeral options/planning and the difficult steps of living life after the death of your baby.
- A listening session to enable you to debrief your experience, without retraumatization
- The 3 Step REWIND Programme to enable you to process trauma that may be impacting your life after the loss of your baby (a minimum of 8 weeks after the death of your baby).
Contact Me
If you have received the devastating news that your baby has died before birth, please text or call me on 07404934103 so that I can make arrangements to support you as soon as possible. If I do not answer your call, please leave a voicemail or text. I am here for you.
I am a certified Stillbirthday Doula and a certified Pregnancy and Infant Loss Advocate (PAILAdvocate)