You Are Not Alone
I am so sorry you are here. Whether you are experiencing signs of a first trimester miscarriage, a later gestation miscarriage up to 24 weeks, have learnt that you have had a silent/missed miscarriage or that your pregnancy will end prematurely and your baby will not survive, I truly am sorry. I validate you, your loss and your baby’s short life.
Miscarriage can be devastating, and the loss or grief you may feel is not any less valid or meaningful because your baby died earlier, rather than later in your pregnancy. Please know that you do not have to experience a miscarriage alone, I am here for you.
Knowing your birth options and preparing to birth your baby can feel utterly incomprehensible and impossible when you are experiencing shock and grief. I am here to slow things down, to validate your feelings and to support you in your decision making and planning.
As a miscarriage doula, there are so many ways in which I can provide you with informational, physical, emotional and advocate support during this life altering time. My companioning support is WITHOUT COST. I am able to provide support both in person and virtually.
How I Can Support You
- Recognising trauma responses and how these may impact your ability to process information and make informed decisions.
- Slowing things down, listening to what you need and holding space for all of your feelings and emotions.
- Incorporating your belief system about death and other cultural or religious rituals into your expectations of birth and care for your baby.
- Ensuring, where possible, you have the time you need to make informed decisions about your birth and your baby.
- Supporting you to understand your rights and the process of consent and informed decision making.
- Exploring your birth options, providing birth education and making a birth plan in collaboration with your care team.
- Supporting the needs of your partner and other signficant people in your life, as they navigate their own feelings whilst also being there for you.
- Supporting you as you communicate the death of your baby to your loved ones.
- Helping you pack a hospital birth bag and to create a nurturing birth environment wherever you are giving birth.
- Creating/adjusting your birth plan and supporting you in person, physically and emotionally during the birth of your baby, including at home, in A&E, a clinic setting or hospital (my birth support can also be virtual).
- After birth, supporting you to bond and spend time with your baby, making memories and keepsakes.
- Creating a saline bath for your baby if desired (water immersion bath).
- Ensuring you are provided with special garments to swaddle and dress your baby.
- Sourcing and contacting a bereavement photographer if desired.
- Ensuring your postpartum and post loss lactation needs are met.
- Supporting you to explore post loss lactation options, including milk cessation, milk donation and milk keepsakes.
- Supporting you to say goodbye to your baby.
- Linking you with resources and services in your community and online, who can support you with funeral planning and the difficult steps of living life after the loss of your baby.
- A listening session to enable you to debrief your experience, without retraumatization
- The 3 Step REWIND Programme to enable you to process trauma that may be impacting your life after the loss of your baby (a minimum of 8 weeks after your miscarriage).
Contact Me
If you are experiencing early signs of a miscarriage, or have learned that you will miscarry, please text or call me on 07404934103 so that I can make arrangements to support you as soon as possible. If I do not answer your call, please leave a voicemail or text. You do not have to go through miscarriage on your own. I am here for you.
I am a certified Stillbirthday Doula and a certified Pregnancy and Infant Loss Advocate (PAILAdvocate)